Yoni - or the deep feminine energy within a woman - is at once the simplest and most difficult concept to explain. First, there is the challenge of overcoming centuries of repressed knowledge about the unbridled power that women hold within their sexual and reproductive anatomy. Second, there is helping each individual woman to understand and connect to her respective yoni…not an easy task when we are not taught this skill by our female community.
When I say that yoni is a simple concept, I mean that it is a widely accepted belief that women are the holder’s of reproductive and sexual power. Almost every time I explain to a woman (often in therapy) that she has a deeper, wiser, older feminine energy within her body who is accompanying her in life, I’m met with nods of agreement and acceptance. Through practice, patience, and a dose of imagination, these women enter into communication with this inherent part of themselves; and it is glorious to witness. Some see her as a best friend, a compagnon, another part of their personalities, or a stranger that they have yet to understand. Some see her as an energy force, an ancestor from a past life, or a sister. The connection that is acknowledged and recognized between a woman and her yoni allows for a clearer understanding of the deeper feminine self.
This is where yoni becomes a very difficult concept to explain, I find. Several questions come up, such as: What do women get from having a clearer understanding of their deeper feminine selves? What is to be achieved, concretely, by diving into this relationship? And how does one communicate with a part of themselves that is an energy force coming from their sexual organs?
Communication with yoni helps to interpret and understand a woman’s sexual and interpersonal history from a deeper, wiser perspective. Yoni has been with the woman for her entire life, beginning at birth. She has experienced the ups and downs of life : puberty, adolescence, first kisses, first intimacies, sexual encounters, pregnancies, miscarriages, menopause…all of it. She has her own opinions and reactions to how these moments have all been handled, and the more in tune with these “yoni thoughts” a woman is, the more she can understand herself.
This is the work : spending time with yoni in order to listen, respond, and show her care. The healthier this communication, the more fulfilled both yoni and woman become.
